{"id":18004,"date":"2025-02-21T09:58:35","date_gmt":"2025-02-21T09:58:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/?p=18004"},"modified":"2025-02-21T09:58:35","modified_gmt":"2025-02-21T09:58:35","slug":"how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Strengthen Loving Relationships with Mindfulness"},"content":{"rendered":"<a href=\"https:\/\/chatgpt.com\/?prompt=Visit%20this%20URL%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.mindful.org%2Fhow-to-be-mindful-in-love%2F%3Frand%3D15311%20and%20summarize%20the%20content%20of%20this%20article%20titled%20%22How%20to%20Strengthen%20Loving%20Relationships%20with%20Mindfulness%22%20for%20me%20in%20arabic%20and%20english\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"color: #ffffff;text-decoration: none;font-size: 15px;background-color: #10a37f;padding: 12px 16px;margin: 0 0 16px 0;text-align: center;font-weight: bold; width: 100%; border-radius: 12px; display: block\">Summarize \u2728 \u062a\u0644\u062e\u064a\u0635<\/a><p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><\/figure>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to wait for Valentine\u2019s day to pause and reflect on the relationships you value in your life. Whether it be with colleagues, friends, lovers, or a spouse, you can always benefit from taking a step back, appreciating the love you have in your life and making the time to show others you care about them.<\/p>\n<p>When you are mindful of the love in your life you open yourself up to the opportunity for love to grow. And not just romantic love, but self-love, and loving friendships as well.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-02-1-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-47391\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-02-1-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-02-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-02-1-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-02-1-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-02-1-2048x1365.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><\/figure>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_82_2 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"cursor:pointer\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#The_Benefits_of_Healthy_Relationships\" >The Benefits of Healthy Relationships<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#6_Ways_Relationships_Help_You_Thrive\" >6 Ways Relationships Help You Thrive<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#1_Spend_time_with_the_right_people\" >1. Spend time with the right people<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#2_Create_goals_with_others\" >2. Create goals with others<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#3_Ask_for_feedback\" >3. Ask for feedback<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#4_Use_your_broader_network\" >4. Use your broader network<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#5_Be_grateful\" >5. Be grateful<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#6_Invest_in_others\" >6. Invest in others<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Lessons_from_the_Longest_Study_on_Happiness\" >Lessons from the Longest Study on Happiness<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Watch_the_Full_Video\" >Watch the Full Video:<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#What_Makes_a_Good_Life\" >What Makes a Good Life?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_to_Strengthen_Relationships_with_Mindfulness\" >How to Strengthen Relationships with Mindfulness<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Watch_the_Full_Video-2\" >Watch the Full Video:<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-14\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#3_Simple_Ways_to_Strengthen_Your_Relationships\" >3 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Relationships<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-15\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#1_Start_with_kindness\" >1. Start with kindness<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-16\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#2_Let_go_of_toxic_people\" >2. Let go of toxic people<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-17\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#3_Focus_on_similarities_not_differences\" >3. Focus on similarities, not differences<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-18\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_Practicing_Gratitude_Helps_Relationships\" >How Practicing Gratitude Helps Relationships<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-19\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_a_Lack_of_Gratitude_Hurts_Relationships\" >How a Lack of Gratitude Hurts Relationships<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-20\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#The_One_Question_That_Can_Save_Your_Relationship\" >The One Question That Can Save Your Relationship<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-21\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Low_Self-Esteem_Interferes_with_Trust\" >Low Self-Esteem Interferes with Trust<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-22\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_to_Show_You_Care\" >How to Show You Care<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-23\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Curiosity_Creates_the_Space_to_Trust\" >Curiosity Creates the Space to Trust<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-24\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_Love_and_Mindfulness_Go_Hand_in_Hand\" >How Love and Mindfulness Go Hand in Hand<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-25\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Tips_for_Mindful_Loving\" >Tips for Mindful Loving<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-26\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#1_Remember_why_you_love_your_partner\" >1. Remember why you love your partner<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-27\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#2_Commit_to_date_your_mate\" >2. Commit to date your mate<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-28\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_a_Mindful_Marriage_Can_Reinvigorate_Your_Relationship\" >How a Mindful Marriage Can Reinvigorate Your Relationship<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-29\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Bids_for_Closeness\" >Bids for Closeness<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-30\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Make_Time_to_Connect\" >Make Time to Connect<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-31\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#5_Research-Backed_Ways_to_Strengthen_Your_Marriage\" >5 Research-Backed Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-32\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#1_Focus_on_positive_interactions\" >1. Focus on positive interactions<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-33\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#2_Communicate\" >2. Communicate<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-34\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#3_Divide_your_labor\" >3. Divide your labor<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-35\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#4_Be_friends_with_each_other\" >4. Be friends with each other<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-36\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#5_Have_sex_at_least_once_a_week\" >5. Have sex at least once a week<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-37\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Did_you_marry_the_wrong_person_Here_are_three_ways_to_find_out\" >Did you marry the wrong person? Here are three ways to find out:<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-38\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Tips_for_Meditating_as_a_Couple\" >Tips for Meditating as a Couple<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-39\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#4_Ways_to_Accept_Your_Practice_Without_Pushing_It_on_Others\" >4 Ways to Accept Your Practice Without Pushing It on Others<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-40\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Couples_Meditation_A_10-Minute_Meditation_on_Love_Connection\" >Couples Meditation: A 10-Minute Meditation on Love Connection<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-41\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Mindfulness_Practice_Keep_the_Lines_Open\" >Mindfulness Practice: Keep the Lines Open<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-42\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Couples_Meditation_A_5-Minute_Love_Letter_Meditation\" >Couples Meditation: A 5-Minute Love Letter Meditation<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-43\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#A_Radical_Generosity_Visualization_Practice\" >A Radical Generosity Visualization Practice<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-44\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Mindfulness_Practice_Rekindling_Passion_In_Your_Relationship\" >Mindfulness Practice: Rekindling Passion In Your Relationship<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-45\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_to_Improve_Your_Relationships_with_Mindful_Communication\" >How to Improve Your Relationships with Mindful Communication<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-46\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#What_Does_Relational_Mindfulness_Look_Like\" >What Does Relational Mindfulness Look Like?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-47\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#1_Set_the_intention_to_pay_attention\" >1. Set the intention to pay attention<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-48\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#2_Take_a_mindful_pause_during_conversations\" >2. Take a mindful pause during conversations<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-49\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#3_Listen_deeply\" >3. Listen deeply<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-50\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#4_Practice_mindful_inquiry\" >4. Practice mindful inquiry<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-51\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#5_Turn_toward_challenges_rather_than_away\" >5. Turn toward challenges, rather than away<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-52\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#6_Take_responsibility_when_things_get_tough\" >6. Take responsibility when things get tough<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-53\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#7_Bring_curiosity_to_things_you_%E2%80%9Ctake_personally%E2%80%9D\" >7. Bring curiosity to things you \u201ctake personally\u201d\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-54\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#8_Bravely_speak_your_truth\" >8. Bravely speak your truth\u00a0\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-55\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#9_Act_with_compassion\" >9. Act with compassion<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-56\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_to_Practice_Mindful_Listening\" >How to Practice Mindful Listening<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-57\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_to_Really_Listen\" >How to Really Listen<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-58\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#How_to_Defuse_an_Argument_with_Your_Partner\" >How to Defuse an Argument with Your Partner<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-59\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#1_Admit_when_youre_wrong\" >1. Admit when you\u2019re wrong<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-60\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#_2_Opt_for_non-complementary_behavior\" >\u00a02. Opt for non-complementary behavior<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-61\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Deepen_Your_Connections_and_Sense_of_Belonging\" >Deepen Your Connections and Sense of Belonging<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-62\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#A_Practice_for_Opening_Your_Heart\" >A Practice for Opening Your Heart<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-63\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Learn_to_Connect_with_Those_You_Love\" >Learn to Connect with Those You Love<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-64\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#11_Ways_to_Connect_with_Care\" >11 Ways to Connect with Care<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-65\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#1_Really_see_each_other\" >1.\u00a0Really see each other<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-66\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#2_Listen_with_all_of_your_senses\" >2. Listen with all of your senses<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-67\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#3_Reach_out_and_touch_someone\" >3. Reach out and touch someone<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-68\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#4_Hug_like_you_mean_it\" >4.\u00a0Hug like you mean it<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-69\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#5_Be_interested\" >5. Be interested<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-70\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#6_Make_plans_and_keep_them\" >6. Make plans and keep them<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-71\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#7_Communicate_your_needs_and_feelings\" >7.\u00a0Communicate your needs and feelings<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-72\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#8_Be_kind\" >8. Be kind<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-73\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#9_THINK_before_you_speak\" >9.\u00a0THINK\u00a0before you speak<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-74\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#10_Practice_%E2%80%9CJust_like_me%E2%80%9D\" >10.\u00a0Practice \u201cJust like me\u201d<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-75\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#11_Experience_joy_for_others\" >11. Experience joy for others<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-76\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Build_Connection_Through_Digital_Zones\" >Build Connection Through Digital Zones<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-77\" href=\"https:\/\/theprivateclinic.me\/en\/posts\/mental-health\/how-to-strengthen-loving-relationships-with-mindfulness\/#Notice_These_3_Phases_of_Communication\" >Notice These 3\u00a0Phases\u00a0of\u00a0Communication<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-benefits-of-healthy-relationships\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Benefits_of_Healthy_Relationships\"><\/span>The Benefits of Healthy Relationships<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Plenty of exercise. Healthy food. Positive attitude. Plain old good luck. There\u2019s lots of advice out there about how to keep body and brain in optimal shape as the years roll by.<\/p>\n<p>But Louis Cozolino, professor of psychology at Pepperdine University, is deeply engaged with another idea. In Cozolino\u2019s book, <em>Timeless: Nature\u2019s Formula for Health and Longevity<\/em>, he emphasizes the positive impact of human relationships.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOf all the experiences we need to survive and thrive, it is the experience of relating to others that is the most meaningful and important,\u201d he writes.<\/p>\n<p>His thinking grows out of the relatively new field of interpersonal neurobiology, based on the recognition that humans are best understood not in isolation, but in the context of their connections with others. Our brains, Cozolino writes, are social organs, and that means that we are <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/how-mindfulness-practice-helps-us-connect-with-others\/\">wired to connect with each other and to interact in groups. A life that maximizes social interaction and human-to-human contact is good for the brain at every stage, particularly for the aging brain.<\/p>\n<p>Since the publication of Cozolino\u2019s earlier book, <em>The Neuroscience of Human Relationships<\/em>, the field of social neuroscience has expanded tremendously. We now know that people who have more social support tend to have better mental health, cardiovascular health, immunological functioning, and cognitive performance. The well-known, long-running <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.nurseshealthstudy.org\/about-nhs\/history\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Harvard Medical School Nurses\u2019 Health Study<\/a> was one of the early studies to reveal how being socially integrated can lead to greater health, life satisfaction, and longevity over time.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHow we bond and stay attached to others is at the core of our resilience, self-esteem, and physical health,\u201d Cozolino writes. \u201cWe build the brains of our children through our interaction with them, and we keep our own brains growing and changing throughout life by staying connected to others.\u201d<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-6-ways-relationships-help-you-thrive\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Ways_Relationships_Help_You_Thrive\"><\/span>6 Ways Relationships Help You Thrive<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>When we think about personal growth, we often envision a solo quest, like Don Quixote on a journey of self-improvement. We are advised to increase our self-control, get grittier, and develop a sense of purpose. So we hunker down, turn inward, and start the solitary task of reshaping our habits and behaviors.<\/p>\n<p>And yet people who are thriving are usually doing so with the help of others. Peak athletes have coaches. Top executives have mentors. Great parents have parenting blogs and other great parents to bounce ideas off of.<\/p>\n<p>Research backs this up, suggesting that positive relationships can help us succeed, grow, and become better people. Romantic partners often encourage and support one another toward shared goals. When parents are highly involved in school, their children tend to do well academically. And positive support from friends, especially during adolescence and early adulthood, can encourage us to be more empathic and helpful toward others.<\/p>\n<p>Across all spheres of our lives, our relationships can not only help us feel good, but they can also help us be good. If you want to tap into these benefits, here are six simple ways to draw on your relationships to fuel your growth.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-spend-time-with-the-right-people\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Spend_time_with_the_right_people\"><\/span>1. Spend time with the right people<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>We generally become more and more like the people with whom we spend our time. The more we see someone model a behavior and see that behavior being reinforced in positive ways, the more likely we are to try it out ourselves\u2014whether it\u2019s a friend having success with a new exercise routine or a partner staying calm during disagreements by tuning into their breath.<\/p>\n<p>One of the most fundamental ways to make sure your relationships are helping you grow is to surround yourself with the right people. Some relationships frustrate us, some make us happy, and some challenge us (and some relationships do all three!). While it isn\u2019t always easy to stop and start relationships, of course, we can aim to spend more time with the people who challenge us.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-create-goals-with-others\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Create_goals_with_others\"><\/span>2. Create goals with others<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Who says that goal setting should be a solitary venture?<\/p>\n<p>When we share our goals with others, we immediately have someone to keep us accountable. It is difficult to stay on track with a goal all the time, but it\u2019s easier if we have someone to help us work through an obstacle or pick us up when we fall.<\/p>\n<p>The social support that we receive from others is incredibly powerful, particularly during those tough times. When the pressure is high, those who have greater levels of social support tend to experience less stress.<\/p>\n<p>We may also be more motivated when we are working toward a goal with someone else. Think about being pushed by a running mate to jog a little faster than you would otherwise. Or giving up your Saturday for a service project because a friend is doing the same thing. Sometimes we need someone else to inspire us to be our best.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-ask-for-feedback\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Ask_for_feedback\"><\/span>3. Ask for feedback<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s usually up to us to decide on the areas where we could use some self-improvement. And while this process of self-reflection is important, we can sometimes be bad judges of our own abilities; we usually assume we know much more than we actually do. So why not look to our relationships as a source of feedback about where we can improve?<\/p>\n<p>Feedback is crucial for our development. Research has shown that when we seek feedback and use it as an opportunity for growth, we are more likely to improve over time. How much faster would that process be if we went and asked for feedback instead of waiting for it to come? Imagine your partner\u2019s reaction if you were to ask for feedback on what you could have done differently after a big fight, or how blown away your teenager would be if you asked how you could be a better parent this school year.<\/p>\n<p>Our positive relationships represent a safe space for us to work on ourselves with support from people who care about us. But sometimes we have to make the first move and ask for that support.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-use-your-broader-network\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Use_your_broader_network\"><\/span>4. Use your broader network<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Just like financial capital, social capital is a valuable resource that we can invest in for our own good. The more meaningful relationships we have, the more social resources become available. We often find work or beloved hobbies through our relationships, even at three or four degrees of separation\u2014like your brother\u2019s wife\u2019s friend, who heard about that great new job opening.<\/p>\n<p>In addition to exposing us to new ideas, activities, and opportunities, social capital also frees us up to do more of the things we are good at when we find others to help with the things we aren\u2019t as good at. This has benefits at home and at work: For example, employees are more engaged when they get to spend more time using their strengths. And teenagers are happier and less stressed when their parents focus on building their strengths.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-be-grateful\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Be_grateful\"><\/span>5. Be grateful<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Gratitude has long been promoted as a way of increasing our happiness, but it also motivates us toward self-improvement. If you want a simple boost from your relationships, you can start by just practicing gratitude for them. The act of being thankful can increase our confidence and encourage us to move forward with our goals, perhaps because it tends to make us feel more connected to people and creates feelings of elevation\u2014a strong positive emotion that comes when we see others do good deeds.<\/p>\n<p>So think about someone who has helped you a great deal in the past, and reach out to thank them. Not only will that exchange feel good for both of you, but it might also reignite a relationship that can spark your further growth.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-6-invest-in-others\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Invest_in_others\"><\/span>6. Invest in others<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>As you\u2019re tapping into your relationships for social capital, you can contribute to the growth of others, as well\u2014which is another way to show gratitude.<\/p>\n<p>We as humans are motivated by reciprocity. When we receive a favor, we often want to pay it back (or pay it forward). So offer to help a neighbor with a home improvement project just like another neighbor helped you. Or reach out to someone you have helped in the past, and check in to see how they are doing.<\/p>\n<p>While supporting others is meaningful in and of itself, it doesn\u2019t hurt that it tends to be a mutually beneficial experience. We help someone else, and we usually feel pretty good\u2014and might even learn something in the process. That is one reason mentoring has become so common in the workplace. It is an exchange that benefits both parties, as the mentee gains valuable wisdom while the mentor gets to brush up on skills and take in new perspectives.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/mailchi.mp\/367be30ed6f8\/b1ae62ldl9\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationship-EmailSeries-5-1024x512.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-47405\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationship-EmailSeries-5-1024x512.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationship-EmailSeries-5-300x150.png 300w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationship-EmailSeries-5-768x384.png 768w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationship-EmailSeries-5.png 1400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-lessons-from-the-longest-study-on-happiness\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Lessons_from_the_Longest_Study_on_Happiness\"><\/span>Lessons from the Longest Study on Happiness<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>In this TEDx talk, Robert Waldinger, a clinical professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, director of the Center for Psychodynamic Therapy and Research at Massachusetts General Hospital, and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, shares three important lessons learned from a 75-year study as well as some practical wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life filled with true happiness and satisfaction.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-watch-the-full-video\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Watch_the_Full_Video\"><\/span>Watch the Full Video: <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-ted wp-block-embed-ted wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\">\n<p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness\" src=\"https:\/\/embed.ted.com\/talks\/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness\" width=\"500\" height=\"282\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\"><\/iframe>\n<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-makes-a-good-life\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_Makes_a_Good_Life\"><\/span>What Makes a Good Life?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><strong>1.<\/strong> <strong>Social connections are good for us, and loneliness kills. <\/strong>It turns out people who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to the community are happier, they\u2019re physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less connected. People who are more isolated than they want to be from others find that they are less happy, their health declines earlier in midlife, their brain functioning declines sooner, and they live shorter lives than people who are not lonely, Dr. Waldinger explains.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2.<\/strong> <strong>Keeping your close relationships, closer. <\/strong>It\u2019s not the number of close friends you have, or whether or not you\u2019re in a committed relationship, but the quality of your close relationships that matter. Living in the midst of conflict is bad for your health. High-conflict marriages without much affection, according to Dr. Waldinger, are perhaps worse than getting divorced. And living in the midst of good, warm relationships is protective.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3.<\/strong> <strong>Good relationships don\u2019t just affect our bodies, they protect our brains. <\/strong>The same study also showed that being in a securely attached relationship to another person in your 80s is protective, that the people who are in relationships where they feel they can count on the other person in times of need, those people\u2019s memories stay sharper and longer.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-03-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-47386\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-03-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-03-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-03-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-03-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-03-2048x1365.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-strengthen-relationships-with-mindfulness\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Strengthen_Relationships_with_Mindfulness\"><\/span>How to Strengthen Relationships with Mindfulness<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Having strong relationships is one of the single greatest predictors of wellness, happiness, and longevity. And our connections flourish when we take time to get to know ourselves, and others, better.<\/p>\n<p>Here are three simple ways to strengthen the relationships you have, and nourish the ones that might need some work.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-watch-the-full-video-0\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Watch_the_Full_Video-2\"><\/span>Watch the Full Video:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\">\n<p>\n<iframe title=\"Mindful Minute: 3 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Relationships\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/urEV7zKq404?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-simple-ways-to-strengthen-your-relationships\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Simple_Ways_to_Strengthen_Your_Relationships\"><\/span>3 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Relationships<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-start-with-kindness\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Start_with_kindness\"><\/span>1. Start with kindness<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Kindness is like a magnet. People like to be around others who are kind because they feel cared about and safe with them. The Golden Rule, \u201cDo unto others as you would want them to do to you\u201d still rings true today.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s also reciprocal. When we practice kindness, not only do we feel better, but we help others feel good, too. And this just increases opportunities for positive connections throughout our day, which, in turn, contributes to our own health and well-being.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-let-go-of-toxic-people\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Let_go_of_toxic_people\"><\/span>2. Let go of toxic people<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Take an inventory of your relationships to get a sense of who\u2019s nourishing you and who\u2019s depleting you. A strong relationship will make you feel comfortable, confident, and fully supported.<\/p>\n<p>Once you know who is really there for you, try to spend a little less time with those who deplete you. This isn\u2019t always possible, of course (ie: family members, coworkers, etc.), so in those cases, see if you can change your relationship a little bit by recognizing that those people may be dealing with some instability in their lives. Practice sending them some kind intentions <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/how-to-be-more-compassionate-a-mindful-guide-to-compassion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">using a loving-kindness meditation and see what comes up.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-focus-on-similarities-not-differences\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Focus_on_similarities_not_differences\"><\/span>3. Focus on similarities, not differences<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>If you want to foster a greater sense of connection in your life, it\u2019s helpful to think of what we share as human beings\u2014even with the people you might not always see eye to eye on.<\/p>\n<p>As you go through your day and encounter someone who you think is different from you, silently say, \u201cJust like me,\u201d and see what you notice. You may just experience the awareness that each of us wants the same things: to feel cared for and understood, and to experience a sense of belonging.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-practicing-gratitude-helps-relationships\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_Practicing_Gratitude_Helps_Relationships\"><\/span>How Practicing Gratitude Helps Relationships<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Imagine that you\u2019ve embarked on a quest to be more grateful. You dutifully journal about the happy events in your day. You notice and begin to appreciate all the little things your partner does for you, from brewing your morning coffee to letting you pick what movie to watch. This can only be good for your relationship, right?<\/p>\n<p>According to a recent <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/dx.doi.org\/10.1037\/fam0000533\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">study<\/a>, it depends\u2014on whether your partner is grateful, too.<\/p>\n<p>While gratitude has been shown to be a boon for individuals\u2014making you happier, healthier, and more successful\u2014less is known about how gratitude works in relationships, where personalities and habits collide to create complex, dynamic interactions.<\/p>\n<p>To go deeper into whether gratitude helps relationships, Florida State University psychologist James K. McNulty and his coauthor Alexander Dugas recruited 120 newlywed couples to fill out surveys. Initially, they reported how happy and satisfied they were with their marriage and their partner, and how much gratitude they felt and expressed for their partner and the nice things they did. They repeated the gratitude survey a year later and the marriage survey every four months for three years.<\/p>\n<p>That gave researchers a snapshot of how each partner\u2019s gratitude and marital satisfaction changed over time. And they found that spouses heavily influenced each other.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-a-lack-of-gratitude-hurts-relationships\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_a_Lack_of_Gratitude_Hurts_Relationships\"><\/span>How a Lack of Gratitude Hurts Relationships<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>If your mate is low in gratitude, the results suggest, you seem to miss out on some of the benefits of being a grateful person yourself. More grateful people started out more satisfied with their marriages and were more satisfied three years in\u2014but only if their partner was high in gratitude, too. Marital satisfaction naturally declined in couples over time, but it declined even more steeply for grateful people wedded to ungrateful ones.<\/p>\n<p>In extreme cases, when their partner showed very little gratitude, being more grateful actually seemed to hurt their romantic happiness.<\/p>\n<p>This worked the other way around, too. Grateful partners typically make our lives better, but we might not benefit as much if we\u2019re not also grateful. People with more grateful partners tended to start out more satisfied with their marriages and still be more satisfied three years later\u2014but only if they were high in gratitude. A grateful partner helped stave off the natural declines in people\u2019s marital satisfaction over time\u2014but, again, only for the highly grateful. When people were extremely ungrateful, their partner\u2019s thankfulness seemed to backfire.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Not only are ungrateful partners missing out on genuine moments of positivity and connection, but their other halves may be less willing to contribute to the couple if their efforts aren\u2019t recognized.<\/p>\n<p>Surprisingly, the study suggested that two less grateful partners might be happier together than partners with mismatched levels of gratitude. \u201cI suspect that the mismatch is troubling for the same reasons other mismatches in personality can be troubling\u2014the two partners just aren\u2019t on the same page in terms of how to treat one another,\u201d says McNulty.<\/p>\n<p>Does that mean we should blame our partners for all our relationship woes, or coerce them into saying \u201cthank you\u201d more?<\/p>\n<p>Not necessarily. This is a single study, and it measured gratitude in a specific way, points out relationship well-being researcher Amie Gordon: asking people about their own appreciation, not asking the other partner how appreciated they actually felt. Different ways of measuring gratitude may yield different results\u2014including a situation where our own expressions of thanks can rub off on our partner, making them more grateful in turn. Plus, gratitude is only one piece of the relationship puzzle\u2014and practicing gratitude has lots of other benefits to our lives. At the end of the day, for many of us, it probably helps to try to see the good in the person we love.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-one-question-that-can-save-your-relationship\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_One_Question_That_Can_Save_Your_Relationship\"><\/span>The One Question That Can Save Your Relationship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>For a moment, think of seeing your partner or close friend as they walk in your front door. You jump up to greet them, exclaiming that their new jacket looks great on them, and you\u2019ve been excited to see them all day. In the midst of your rush of enthusiasm, how are they reacting? Do you have a sense that they believe and trust what you\u2019re saying, or do your compliments seem to isolate them?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Although love is the quality we tend to glorify the most in romantic relationships, trust is equally indispensable. It\u2019s the sustaining, slow-burning element of love. If you want to actively cultivate a deeper trust with your partner, research has found it could be as simple as asking them one important question.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-low-self-esteem-interferes-with-trust\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Low_Self-Esteem_Interferes_with_Trust\"><\/span>Low Self-Esteem Interferes with Trust<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Researchers from the University of Waterloo conducted five studies with people in romantic relationships who suffer from a similar problem: One partner has a poor opinion of themselves. This insecurity makes that partner more likely to reject expressions of praise and esteem\u2014even from the people closest to them\u2014and thus to feel less satisfied in their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>If your partner is already sure of themselves, the occasional shower of praise will have the desired effect of reaffirming to your sweetheart that they can trust you. This, of course, reinforces your relationship. But when a partner is insecure about themselves, being praised can spark an anxious reaction. Instead, praise becomes a trigger for doubting the sincerity of their partner because the compliment contradicts the negative emotions they have toward themselves.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-show-you-care\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Show_You_Care\"><\/span>How to Show You Care<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>To avoid having your communication backfire, the researchers found that trust is gained by asking simple, meaningful questions about their daily experience. Simply asking \u201cHow was your day?\u201d and then mindfully listening to the answer conveys your genuine interest and attention in how they\u2019re doing and feeling. Other, more specific versions of the question work as well, for example: \u201cWhat were your classes like today?\u201d or \u201cWhere did you go for lunch?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>For a person with insecurities, this form of curious, caring inquiry, paired with mindful listening, can fly under the radar of their \u201cpraise triggers,\u201d building trust without activating self-judgment. In fact, the researchers found that being asked about their day increased a partner\u2019s sense of satisfaction in the relationship, regardless of whether one or both of the partners was insecure.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-curiosity-creates-the-space-to-trust\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Curiosity_Creates_the_Space_to_Trust\"><\/span>Curiosity Creates the Space to Trust<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>One of the studies found that it wasn\u2019t describing their day that made people feel better, but rather, feeling listened to and cared for in that moment. The surprising thing is that curiosity did not seem to give an extra boost in all relationships. Couples whose levels of self-regard and trust were already normal or above-average did not experience that jump in relationship satisfaction from the \u201cHow was your day?\u201d check-in.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, paying attention to your partner\u2019s experiences can\u2019t hurt your relationship. As the study authors noted, \u201cShowing attention and interest in someone, especially in a society as filled with distractions as ours, can be the most important signal of caring there is.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a target=\"_blank\" id=\"Who\"\/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-04-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-47387\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-04-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-04-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-04-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-04-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-04-2048x1365.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-love-and-mindfulness-go-hand-in-hand\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_Love_and_Mindfulness_Go_Hand_in_Hand\"><\/span>How Love and Mindfulness Go Hand in Hand<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Remember, \u201clove\u201d is a verb. Are you so busy that you forget to prioritize romance? Be honest. How strong is your current love connection on a scale from zero to 10? If it\u2019s less than 10, read on. Here\u2019s how you can slow down and show up for love, over and over again.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-tips-for-mindful-loving\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tips_for_Mindful_Loving\"><\/span>Tips for Mindful Loving<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-remember-why-you-love-your-partner\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Remember_why_you_love_your_partner\"><\/span>1. Remember why you love your partner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Take each sighting of cheap chocolates or drooping roses as a cue to take a mindful breath. Then connect with your heart. Recall special moments the two of you have shared\u2014your first kiss, what they wore on your wedding day, the most outrageous place you\u2019ve made love. Later, share those memories with your sweetie and celebrate some of the moments that led you along the path to now.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-commit-to-date-your-mate\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Commit_to_date_your_mate\"><\/span>2. Commit to date your mate<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Give the gift of interest and time, and book non-negotiable weekly dates. Try recreating your first date, but tell each other what you were privately thinking and feeling during that life-changing encounter. Plan occasional adventures\u2014research shows that novelty and excitement heighten sexual attraction, so skip the movie and head for a climbing wall, an erotic massage class, or a spot for skinny dipping.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-a-mindful-marriage-can-reinvigorate-your-relationship\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_a_Mindful_Marriage_Can_Reinvigorate_Your_Relationship\"><\/span>How a Mindful Marriage Can Reinvigorate Your Relationship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>When you were first dating you naturally treated love like a hobby. In the throes of early infatuation everything seemed effortless. Thanks to hopping hormones your sex drive was high. Thanks to neurochemicals of love creating mindfulness that resembled obsessive compulsions, your beloved was always in your thoughts and you planned your life around them. The friendship was wonderful. So how do you get that back?<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-bids-for-closeness\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Bids_for_Closeness\"><\/span>Bids for Closeness<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Underneath that deep, seemingly effortless, early passion and intimacy was a hidden skill: the ability to make and accept bids for emotional closeness. According Gottman, successful couples are mindful of these bids for connection and pay attention to them. These bids might be a look, a question, an affectionate stroke of the cheek, anything that says, \u201cHey, I want to be connected to you.\u201d Most bids happen in simple, mundane ways, and if we are mindless we miss the overture.<\/p>\n<p>Gottman\u2019s studies indicate that couples who eventually divorce ignore their spouse\u2019s bids for connection 50-80% of the time, while those in happy marriages catch most of these emotional cues and respond kindly.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-make-time-to-connect\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Make_Time_to_Connect\"><\/span>Make Time to Connect<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Long-term great relationships are not an accident. They thrive by design. Great couples pay attention and create connection. These tiny and frequent connections weave an intimate fabric of closeness, creating a blanket of security that wraps us up in love. So give it a try. Make a hobby of your love life and hone happiness habits. Then no matter how life teeters or totters, the two of you can dance in the middle, holding hands, friends for life.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-research-backed-ways-to-strengthen-your-marriage\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Research-Backed_Ways_to_Strengthen_Your_Marriage\"><\/span>5 Research-Backed Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>There\u2019s something odd about the very idea of \u201cthe science of marriage.\u201d Raising kids together, negotiating disputes, or having good sex\u2014these aren\u2019t \u201cscientific\u201d activities. It would be odd to use predictive analytics to improve your parenting. It would be even stranger to use data sets of your past trysts to spice up your sex life.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Science can\u2019t explain the mystery of marriage\u2014the actual experience of being in love. And yet, over the last 30 years, a growing body of evidence has helped shed some light on what works and what doesn\u2019t in marriage.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-focus-on-positive-interactions\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Focus_on_positive_interactions\"><\/span>1. Focus on positive interactions<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>John Gottman, a preeminent marriage researcher, purports to be able to predict the likelihood of divorce with over 90% accuracy. How does he do it? It all comes down to what he calls the 5-to-1 ratio. Couples that interact with five positive interactions for every one negative interaction are likely to stay together. Couples that get caught in a cycle of negative interactions, on the other hand, seem destined for divorce.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-communicate\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Communicate\"><\/span>2. Communicate<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>University of Utah sociologist Daniel Carlson\u2019s research points to another foundational skill in marriage: communication. His studies show that communication leads to a more egalitarian division of labor, which in turn leads to greater relationship satisfaction as well as more and better sex.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-divide-your-labor\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Divide_your_labor\"><\/span>3. Divide your labor<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s great to interact positively and communicate well. But recent polling shows that an equal distribution of household labor ranks among the top three reasons people cite as keys to making marriage work. The Pew Research Center notes that over 60% of married people view sharing household tasks as essential to the success of marriage. In one woman\u2019s words, \u201cI like hugs. I like kisses. But what I really love is help with the dishes.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-be-friends-with-each-other\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Be_friends_with_each_other\"><\/span>4. Be friends with each other<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Gottman\u2019s research points to one other important insight: Couples with deep friendships report higher levels of marital satisfaction. The reason? Friendship is correlated to deeper levels of understanding, admiration, and mutual respect.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-have-sex-at-least-once-a-week\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Have_sex_at_least_once_a_week\"><\/span>5. Have sex at least once a week<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Researchers have long known that sex is linked to relationship satisfaction. However, the research of psychologist Amy Muise shows that the link between sexual frequency and relationship well-being stops at having sex once per week. It\u2019s what researchers call a \u201ccurvilinear\u201d association. The more sex you have, the more your relationship satisfaction improves\u2014that is, until you hit once a week. From there on out, relationship satisfaction stays the same, no matter how much mind-blowing sex you have.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-did-you-marry-the-wrong-person-here-are-three-ways-to-find-out\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Did_you_marry_the_wrong_person_Here_are_three_ways_to_find_out\"><\/span>Did you marry the wrong person? Here are three ways to find out:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><strong>1. Let Go of Fantasy<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Do you sometimes have a sinking feeling that you did not marry \u201cthe one?\u201d Perhaps you have married a person with whom the sex is not always frequent, passionate, and surprising. Perhaps your spouse\u2019s blind adoration seems to be fading? Do the two of you sometimes feel contempt or defensiveness in the face of each other\u2019s \u201chelpful\u201d feedback? If that sounds familiar, you have likely married the wrong person.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s okay. We all marry the wrong person. Or, rather, we marry people for reasons that don\u2019t really pan out over the long haul.<\/p>\n<p>According to the founder and chairman of The School of Life Alain de Botton, we mustn\u2019t abandon our flawed spouses simply because our marriages aren\u2019t living up to childhood daydreams. Instead, we need to jettison \u201cthe Romantic idea upon which the Western understanding of marriage has been based the last 250 years: that a perfect being exists who can meet all our needs and satisfy our every yearning.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>We human beings have a wonderful capacity to create rich fantasies. But when we expect our reality to match a fantasy and life doesn\u2019t deliver what we imagined it would, it\u2019s hard to feel anything other than cheated.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is not very appealing: There is no prince in shining armor coming to save us from loneliness and anxiety, to rescue us from feelings of inadequacy. It begs hard questions: Can I consistently feel grateful for what I do have, rather than disappointed in what I don\u2019t? Can I let go of my attachment to a cultural idea that is, quite literally, a fairy tale?<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Accept Imperfection<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ask yourself if you would marry your partner again. In your heart you may know it\u2019s true: you would marry them again and again, even knowing that marriage is not necessarily easier or more pleasant than being alone, even accepting that marriage does not have any power to transport us back into a state of romantic bliss.<\/p>\n<p>No actual human being can ever measure up to the romantic fantasy of a soulmate. Your partner might be imperfect (and imperfect-for-you), but we\u2019re all highly imperfect and, as such, imperfect for our partners. It\u2019s such a fair match.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Ask the Right Questions<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s clear that all along we\u2019ve been asking the wrong question. \u201cAre you the right person for me?\u201d leads only to stress and judgment and suffering.<\/p>\n<p>Determining the rightness of a match between ourselves and another is a fundamentally flawed enterprise, because nothing outside of ourselves\u2014nothing we can buy, achieve, and certainly no other person\u2014can fix our brokenness, can bring us the lasting joy that we crave.<\/p>\n<p>A more empowering\u2014and more deeply romantic\u2014question is: Am I the right person for you?<\/p>\n<p>A more constructive (and potentially satisfying) proposition is to ask: Can I accommodate your imperfections with humor and grace?<\/p>\n<p>Can I tolerate your inability to read my mind and make everything all-better?<\/p>\n<p>Can I negotiate our disagreements with love and intelligence? Without losing myself to fear and emotion?<\/p>\n<p>Am I willing to do the introspective work required of marriage? Can I muster the self-awareness needed to keep from driving you away?<\/p>\n<p>Do I think I am brave enough to continue loving you, despite your flaws, and, more importantly, despite mine?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-tips-for-meditating-as-a-couple\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tips_for_Meditating_as_a_Couple\"><\/span>Tips for Meditating as a Couple<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Critics of the modern mindfulness movement often note that those of us who promote the benefits of mindfulness have a way of getting evangelical in our attempts to raise awareness about the practice. \u201cIf it\u2019s great for me,\u201d we think, \u201cit must be good for you, and you are missing out!\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The culture of mindfulness often reinforces this attitude in subtle ways: books, articles, and podcasts present these practices as a kind of panacean remedy for all our ills, so we struggle to understand why others wouldn\u2019t want to give it a try.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Being excited about mindfulness may seem harmless, but when we get too pushy about it in our most intimate relationships\u2014especially with our partners and spouses\u2014it can become a source of relational friction, and even conflict.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-ways-to-accept-your-practice-without-pushing-it-on-others\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Ways_to_Accept_Your_Practice_Without_Pushing_It_on_Others\"><\/span>4 Ways to Accept Your Practice Without Pushing It on Others<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>So what are the do\u2019s and don\u2019ts for being in a relationship with a partner who isn\u2019t into mindfulness? Here are a few tips:<\/p>\n<p><strong><strong>1. Recognize that you don\u2019t need others to meditate in order to validate your own practice. <\/strong><\/strong>Even if we\u2019re not consciously attached to our partner practicing mindfulness, this desire can sneak out in subtle ways. It even arises in thoughts like, \u201cIf I let go of my attachment to my partner becoming interested in mindfulness, maybe they will get into it.\u201d The best strategy here is to work toward a place of radical acceptance.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Drop the air of superiority.<\/strong> Here\u2019s another subtle trap of mindfulness evangelism. It\u2019s a belief buried somewhere deep down in the subconscious mind that \u201cI am more aware, more awake, or more enlightened than you because I meditate and you don\u2019t.\u201d Of course, you would never say this to your partner. But it\u2019s often communicated through comments like, \u201cI had the most amazing meditation today!\u201d or \u201cI love meditating!\u201d or \u201cMy mind is just so clear right now.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Accept your experience as yours alone. <\/strong>Jon Kabat-Zinn offers sage advice here. He advises us to resist the urge to talk about our practice. This is particularly true when it comes to our closest relationships.\u00a0 When you feel the urge to say, \u201cMeditating is so great. It\u2019s changed my life,\u201d pause before sharing and take a closer look at your motives. In fact, when you feel like you have something profound to say about your practice, use that as a sign that it\u2019s a good time to go back to the cushion. Sit with this desire to share your experience and see what\u2019s underneath it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. Let go of the idea that you are a \u201cchanged person\u201d because of your practice.<\/strong> This subtle vice of mindfulness aficionados arises when we say things like, \u201cI used to struggle with anxiety\u201d or \u201cI used to be so attached\u201d or \u201cI used to feel angry all the time, but I don\u2019t anymore.\u201d Such statements not only infuriate your partner and the entire community, but they are also generally based on the delusional idea that we\u2019re now somehow beyond experiencing basic forms of human suffering, an idea that simply isn\u2019t true.<\/p>\n<p>In the end, the real key to practicing mindfulness with a partner who isn\u2019t into it is all about letting go. Let go of the hope that he or she might one day share your love for the practice. Let go of your desire to boast about the amazing benefits of your practice. Let go of the feeling that you have achieved some sort of spiritual superiority through meditation. When you do, a new world of deeper connection and love awaits.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-couples-meditation-a-10-minute-meditation-on-love-connection\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Couples_Meditation_A_10-Minute_Meditation_on_Love_Connection\"><\/span>Couples Meditation: A 10-Minute Meditation on Love Connection<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>Clinical psychologist Tara Brach and her husband, meditation teacher Jonathan Foust, have developed a regular practice for keeping the lines of communication open and maintaining a deep, loving connection. They engage in the practice two mornings a week. Here\u2019s how Tara suggests going about it.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-mindfulness-practice-keep-the-lines-open\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Mindfulness_Practice_Keep_the_Lines_Open\"><\/span>Mindfulness Practice: Keep the Lines Open<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><strong>1) Begin by sitting silently together<\/strong> for 10-20 minutes, as time allows.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2) Next, take turns telling each other what you\u2019re grateful for,<\/strong> what\u2019s enlivening your heart at present. \u201cThis is called gladdening the heart and serves as a good way to open the channel of communication,\u201d Tara says.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3) Next, take turns naming any particular challenges you\u2019re dealing with<\/strong> that are currently causing you stress. These are difficulties you\u2019re facing apart from your relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4) Then, deepen your inquiry by taking turns noting anything that might be restricting the sense of love and openness you feel toward your partner.<\/strong> First, you might ask yourself: \u201cWhat is between me and feeling openhearted and intimate with my partner?\u201d This is potentially the stickiest part of the practice, as well as the most rewarding.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNaming difficult truths is the best way to bring more love and understanding into a relationship,\u201d explains Tara. For example, she says, \u201cThere are times when I get busy and Jonathan takes on a larger portion of the household responsibilities and ends up feeling unappreciated, and I need to be reminded to express my appreciation. When we acknowledge what could cause resentment if left unsaid, it brings us closer together.\u201d But, she cautions, for this step to be productive, it\u2019s essential for both partners to practice speaking and listening from a place of vulnerability, without blaming the other person.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5) Next, expand your inquiry to see whether there\u2019s anyone in your wider circle<\/strong> <strong>who also calls out for your attention<\/strong>\u2014in your family, friend circle or society at large who\u2019s important to you as an individual or as a couple. Take turns identifying them, and sense what might serve well-being in this larger domain of relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6) Lastly, enjoy some moments of silent appreciation together<\/strong>, ideally in a long, tender hug.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-couples-meditation-a-5-minute-love-letter-meditation\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Couples_Meditation_A_5-Minute_Love_Letter_Meditation\"><\/span>Couples Meditation: A 5-Minute Love Letter Meditation<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>Authors of <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/mailchi.mp\/2ef9ae1bb683\/huv9vse7dp\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The 80\/80 Marriage<\/a>, Nate Klemp and Kaley Klemp, guide you through a visualization practice to bring a sense of gratitude to your relationship and reconnect with your partner.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-a-radical-generosity-visualization-practice\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"A_Radical_Generosity_Visualization_Practice\"><\/span>A Radical Generosity Visualization Practice<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>For this visualization practice, imagine you and your partner are at the end of your lives. You\u2019ve had a great run together. And now, it\u2019s time to say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d From this perspective, you will write a letter to them. But first, to help you go even deeper into this perspective, we encourage you to listen to the radical generosity love letter meditation. We\u2019ve also included a few prompts below in case you need inspiration.<\/p>\n<p>As you go through this practice, think about what you want your partner to know? How did you fall in love? What were some of your favourite moments together? What do you want to appreciate your partner for? What will you miss most about them?<\/p>\n<p>1. <strong>Find a comfortable seat, or if you prefer,<\/strong> you can even lie down on your back with something to support your head and neck.<\/p>\n<p>2. <strong>Once you get settled, take just a few breaths.<\/strong> Feel the weight of your body supported by the earth, close your eyes, and let go of any effort to control your breath. Then, release any stress or tension you might be carrying.<\/p>\n<p>3. <strong>Picture you and your partner many years from now at the end of your lives.<\/strong> You\u2019re sitting together on comfortable chairs perched at the edge of a pristine lake, a lake that\u2019s so still you can see the reflection of the horizon on its surface. Your skin is wrinkled, and your hair is gray. You\u2019ve had an amazing run together. As you sit together, your partner reaches out to hold your hand; It\u2019s the perfect day.<\/p>\n<p>4. <strong>From this perspective, think back to the day the two of you first met,<\/strong> remember where you were, who you were with, and what happened. And just notice the feeling of gratitude for having met each other.<\/p>\n<p>5. <strong>Now, think back to the day you were married,<\/strong> or if that\u2019s not relevant, to some other meaningful day. Picture the scene. Remember who was there. Remember what you were wearing and what you were feeling at that moment. And just notice the feeling of gratitude.<\/p>\n<p>6. <strong>Think back to a moment when you were struggling, and your partner showed up to support you.<\/strong> It might be a difficult year, a layoff, or some other big setback. Remember where you were, what you were feeling, and see if you can experience that feeling of support. And just notice again, that feeling of gratitude.<\/p>\n<p>7. <strong>Remember a milestone moment you shared with your partner<\/strong>. It might be the birth of a child, the launch of a business, or some other major life accomplishment. Remember where you were, picture the two of you together, remember what it was like to celebrate and savor this moment. And just notice the feeling of gratitude.<\/p>\n<p>8. <strong>Now return to those two chairs facing the lake <\/strong>and spend the next minute or so just savoring this experience of gratitude and appreciation for your partner.<\/p>\n<p>9. <strong>When you\u2019re ready, take a few final deep breaths<\/strong>, relax even more into this experience of gratitude.<\/p>\n<p>10.\u00a0 <strong>Then begin to open your eyes and come back to the present<\/strong> where you are right now.<\/p>\n<p>And now, see if you can bring this heightened sense of gratitude and appreciation to the final task: writing your partner the radical generosity love letter.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-mindfulness-practice-rekindling-passion-in-your-relationship\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Mindfulness_Practice_Rekindling_Passion_In_Your_Relationship\"><\/span>Mindfulness Practice: Rekindling Passion In Your Relationship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Loving intentions guide your behavior in the present moment and help you create an intentional relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Step 1:<\/strong> Pick a relationship goal. Goal: I want to have more kindness in our relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Step 2:<\/strong> Choose three intentions that will guide you to act in ways that will move you toward that goal. For example: Intention 1: I intend to speak with a kind tone when I feel impatient. Intention 2: I intend to leave a meaningful and loving note for my spouse each morning. Intention 3: I intend to meditate for thirty minutes most days to continue to strengthen my mind and cultivate patience.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Step 3:<\/strong> Review your intentions daily. After you create your loving intentions list, commit to spending two minutes each morning reviewing that list and setting your intentions for the day.<\/p>\n<p>At the end of each day, take time to review your progress. How did you do? Did you turn your intentions into actions? Some wins, some losses? Can you tweak your intentions to make them even more actionable tomorrow?<\/p>\n<p><a target=\"_blank\" id=\"What\"\/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-05-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-47388\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-05-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-05-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-05-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-05-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-05-2048x1365.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-improve-your-relationships-with-mindful-communication\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Improve_Your_Relationships_with_Mindful_Communication\"><\/span>How to Improve Your Relationships with Mindful Communication<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>We all crave love, intimacy, and genuine connection, but our unconscious habits and reactions can get in the way of our most important relationship skill: mindful communication. When we\u00a0 practice being fully present for the beautiful, dynamic, and messy realm of human relationships, we bring our mindfulness practice truly \u201coff the cushion.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>While every relationship we have begins with our relationship with ourselves, relational mindfulness gives us the tools we need to connect more deeply with others. Indeed it is the arena of meeting the day-to-day family, work, and social struggles that we can profoundly deepen our mindfulness practice.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-does-relational-mindfulness-look-like\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_Does_Relational_Mindfulness_Look_Like\"><\/span>What Does Relational Mindfulness Look Like?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-set-the-intention-to-pay-attention\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Set_the_intention_to_pay_attention\"><\/span>1. Set the intention to pay attention<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Beginning with the intention to pay attention moment by moment enables you to recognize when you\u2019re getting caught up in unconscious habits that get in the way of genuine connection. When you can pay attention to these moments you give yourself the opportunity to investigate what\u2019s behind them: Are you seeking approval? Wanting to be right? Wanting to be liked? When you allow your deeper intention of staying present be your foundation you give yourself the choice of responding rather than reacting<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-take-a-mindful-pause-during-conversations\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Take_a_mindful_pause_during_conversations\"><\/span>2. Take a mindful pause during conversations<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>By pausing before, during, and after conversations, you can stay connected with your deeper self as you engage with others. Each time you take a pause, breathe, and turn your attention within, you invite yourself into presence. You can return from distractions (or inner stories that can cause you to disconnect). If, for instance, an inner story is creating anxiety or judgment, you can pause and consider if this is really what you want to give your energy to.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-listen-deeply\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Listen_deeply\"><\/span>3. Listen deeply<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Listening to life, moment by moment, as it unfolds is the essence of mindfulness practice. Through practicing deep listening in relationship with others, possibilities for connection open up in ever widening circles. While most of us think of listening as something that requires effort, mindfulness teaches us how to listen from a place of less effort and more ease and relaxation.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-practice-mindful-inquiry\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Practice_mindful_inquiry\"><\/span>4. Practice mindful inquiry<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Learn to inquire into your present moment experience with care and curiosity. Ask questions such as, \u201cThrough what lens am I perceiving?\u201d \u201cIs the thought I\u2019m having really true?\u201d The more you become aware of the energy that you give to your inner stories, the more you can release those stories and see others clearly and compassionately. If, for instance, you notice yourself harshly judging someone, or comparing yourself to someone, instead of letting that story color your interaction, you can learn to question it and redirect your attention.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-turn-toward-challenges-rather-than-away\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Turn_toward_challenges_rather_than_away\"><\/span>5. Turn toward challenges, rather than away<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Most people have been taught to turn away from the challenges they face. But being challenged is a natural and inevitable part of being human. Relational mindfulness invites you to turn towards discomfort so you can deepen your capacity for presence. When a difficult emotion, such as hurt or jealousy, arises during an interaction, you can gently acknowledge it and be with it. You can use your discomfort as an invitation to bring more compassion and healing to a part of you that you may not like or understand.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-6-take-responsibility-when-things-get-tough\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Take_responsibility_when_things_get_tough\"><\/span>6. Take responsibility when things get tough<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s easy to get caught up placing blame on others, thinking something is \u201ctheir fault\u201d or \u201ctheir issue, not mine.\u201d Taking responsibility for your internal response to difficult situations allows you to let go of the desire to blame, judge, or place yourself above someone. This kind of \u201clooking within\u201d can deepen your practice immensely. Rather than placing blame, asking yourself: \u201cWhat is this difficulty inviting me to investigate and bring compassion to?\u201d is a useful starting point for learning how to take more responsibility.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-7-bring-curiosity-to-things-you-take-personally-nbsp\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Bring_curiosity_to_things_you_%E2%80%9Ctake_personally%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>7. Bring curiosity to things you \u201ctake personally\u201d\u00a0<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Not only do we get caught up taking our own thoughts extremely personally (believing rather than questioning the stories we tell ourselves), we also take things that other people say personally. By practicing not taking life so personally, you can create the space needed to see the bigger picture and to see yourself within the bigger picture. Not taking things personally helps you to stay connected to others, to see that we\u2019re all trying to do the best we can, rather than perpetuating a false sense of division, or holding onto judgments (about yourself or others). This is by no means an encouragement to bypass your personal feelings, but a means to bring skill and curiosity to your experiences.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-8-bravely-speak-your-truth-nbsp-nbsp\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8_Bravely_speak_your_truth\"><\/span>8. Bravely speak your truth\u00a0\u00a0<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Learning to be vulnerable and honest, even when it is difficult, allows you to acknowledge the complexity and contradiction that\u2019s naturally part of life. Even though it feels scary sometimes, skillful truth telling is a gift to everyone you engage with. It can take time to learn how to speak your truth, but here are three encouragements: 1) Take the risk! When you are honest and allow yourself to be seen as you are, you invite others to do the same. 2) Take off your mask. When you find yourself putting on a mask to avoid the truth, question if this is really serving you. For instance, if you put on a social or smiling mask when you are actually feeling sad, you miss opportunities for genuine connection. 3) Trust your true voice. If you take time to be still and quiet, and listen deeply enough, you will hear the true voice of your inner guide.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-9-act-with-compassion\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9_Act_with_compassion\"><\/span>9. Act with compassion<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>When you pause, listen deeply, and inquire into your experience, compassionate action can arise organically in the form of insight, intuition, and self-knowledge. Compassion is not a concept\u2014not something to find through cognitive understanding. It exists inside of you, not outside of you. It can be accessed directly by listening to your own heart. Ask yourself: \u201cWhat feels genuinely compassionate in this moment? What is best for all in this moment?\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Relational mindfulness offers both a set of teachings, and tools for embodiment. It is not a set of standards to hold yourself to or to use against yourself or others, but a set of encouragements for healing. These principles can help you to bring more care and compassion to your families, love relationships, work life, social action and community organizing, and most importantly, your relationship with yourself.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-practice-mindful-listening\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Practice_Mindful_Listening\"><\/span>How to Practice Mindful Listening<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>How often do you feel really listened to? How often do you really listen to others? (Be honest.)<\/p>\n<p>We know we\u2019re in the presence of a good listener when we get that sweet, affirming feeling of really being heard. But sadly it occurs all too rarely. We can\u2019t force others to listen, but we can improve our own listening, and perhaps inspire others by doing so.<\/p>\n<p>Good listening means mindful listening. Like mindfulness itself, listening takes a combination of intention and attention. The intention part is having a genuine interest in the other person\u2014their experiences, views, feelings, and needs. The attention part is being able to stay present, open, and unbiased as we receive the other\u2019s words\u2014even when they don\u2019t line up with our own ideas or desires.<\/p>\n<p>Paradoxically, being good at listening to others requires the ability to listen to yourself. If you can\u2019t recognize your own beliefs and opinions, needs and fears, you won\u2019t have enough inner space to really hear anyone else. So the foundation for mindful listening is self-awareness.<\/p>\n<p>Here are some tips to be a good listener to yourself so you can be a good listener for others.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-really-listen\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Really_Listen\"><\/span>How to Really Listen<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>1) <strong>Check inside:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cHow am I feeling just now? Is there anything getting in the way of being present for the other person?\u201d If something is in the way, decide if it needs to be addressed first or can wait till later.<\/p>\n<p>2)\u00a0<strong>Feeling your own sense of presence<\/strong>, extend it to the other person with the intention to listen fully and openly, with interest, empathy, and mindfulness.<\/p>\n<p>3)\u00a0<strong>Silently note your own reactions as they arise<\/strong>\u2014thoughts, feelings, judgments, memories. Then return your full attention to the speaker.<\/p>\n<p>4)\u00a0<strong>Reflect back what you are hearing<\/strong>, using the speaker\u2019s own words when possible, paraphrasing or summarizing the main point. Help the other person feel heard.<\/p>\n<p>5)\u00a0<strong>Use friendly, open-ended question<\/strong>s to clarify your understanding and probe for more. Affirm before you differ. Acknowledge the other person\u2019s point of view\u2014acknowledging is not agreeing!\u2014before introducing your own ideas, feelings, or requests.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-defuse-an-argument-with-your-partner\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Defuse_an_Argument_with_Your_Partner\"><\/span>How to Defuse an Argument with Your Partner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>One of the unique quirks of the human brain is its propensity to mirror the states of others. When we see an eight-week-old baby smile, we can\u2019t help but smile. It just sort of happens.<\/p>\n<p>But the opposite is also true. When we experience our partner\u2019s irritation and anger, we get pissed. We feel an instant surge of irritation and anger. It just sort of happens.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Psychologists have a name for this phenomenon. They call it <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/record\/2009-22579-001\">\u201ccomplementary behavior\u201d<\/a>: the natural human tendency to mirror the emotions of those around us. When we\u2019re in the presence of someone else\u2019s happiness, we feel happy. When we\u2019re in the presence of fear, we feel afraid. It\u2019s a fancy way of saying that, when your partner comes at you with anger or irritation, you\u2019re wired to respond in kind. It\u2019s a behavioral pattern that can lead to endless arguments and conflict.<\/p>\n<p>The question is, can we break the cycle of complementary behavior?<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-admit-when-you-re-wrong\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Admit_when_youre_wrong\"><\/span>1. Admit when you\u2019re wrong<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Most fights involve a struggle for one thing: being right. The attachment to being right is so strong that it leads some people to end their relationships altogether. One problem with our attachment to being right is that it\u2019s often impossible to judge who\u2019s wrong and who\u2019s right. The other problem is that being right comes at an outrageous cost: living in a state of continuous anger and resentment.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So, just for fun, during your next argument, see what happens when you open up to the possibility that you are wrong. Or, perhaps you want to take this one step further: Admit that you\u2019re wrong.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-nbsp-2-opt-for-non-complementary-behavior\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"_2_Opt_for_non-complementary_behavior\"><\/span>\u00a02. Opt for non-complementary behavior<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Now for the advanced practice. The opposite of \u201ccomplementary behavior\u201d is what psychologists call \u201cnon-complementary behavior.\u201d It\u2019s the radical practice of doing the exact opposite of your partner during a conflict. This is the Gandhi-style move of responding to your partner\u2019s searing resentment with love. It\u2019s extreme. It\u2019s counter to our most deeply wired instincts.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>And yet this is the move that can dissolve an argument in 30 seconds or less. Because when you break the cycle of anger by responding with genuine love, kindness, and curiosity, you change the game. Your partner might initially wonder what the hell is going on. They might ask if you\u2019re feeling OK. But, eventually, your non-complementary generosity and love will become contagious and the argument will dissolve.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-06-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-47389\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-06-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-06-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-06-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-06-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/content\/uploads\/Relationships-06-2048x1365.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-deepen-your-connections-and-sense-of-belonging\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Deepen_Your_Connections_and_Sense_of_Belonging\"><\/span><strong>Deepen Your Connections and Sense of Belonging<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>To connect more deeply with others, you must face the one person that you keep on the shortest leash: yourself. We often reject other people\u2019s care or attention when we believe we don\u2019t deserve it\u2014but there\u2019s nothing special you must do to deserve love. As Sharon Salzberg reminds us, it is simply because you exist. <\/p>\n<p>Try this fifteen-minute guided meditation from Sharon Salzberg to learn how to open your heart to love and compassion: <\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-a-practice-for-opening-your-heart\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"A_Practice_for_Opening_Your_Heart\"><\/span>A Practice for Opening Your Heart<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>1) Imagine you\u2019re encircled by people who love you.<\/strong>\u00a0Sit with your eyes closed, breathing normally, imagining yourself in the center of a circle made up of the most loving beings you\u2019ve ever met.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2) Receive\u00a0the love of those who love you.<\/strong>\u00a0Experience yourself as the recipient of the energy, attention, care, and regard of all of these beings in your circle of love. Send love to yourself by giving yourself this message:\u00a0<em>May I be safe, May I be happy, May I be healthy. May I live with ease of heart. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>3) Notice how you feel when you receive love.<\/strong>Whatever emotions may arise, you just let them wash through you.\u00a0And repeat to yourself: \u00a0<em>May I be safe, May I be happy, May I be healthy. May I live with ease of heart. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>4) Open yourself up to receiving love.<\/strong>\u00a0Imagine that your skin is porous and this warm, loving energy is coming in. There\u2019s nothing special that you need to do or be in order to deserve this kind of loving care. It\u2019s simply because you exist.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5) Send loving care to the people in your circle.<\/strong>\u00a0You can allow that quality of loving kindness and compassion and care you feel coming toward you to flow right back out to the circle and then toward all beings everywhere, so that what you receive, you transform into giving. <em>May we all be safe, May we all be happy, May we all be healthy. May we all live with ease of heart. <\/em><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-learn-to-connect-with-those-you-love\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Learn_to_Connect_with_Those_You_Love\"><\/span>Learn to Connect with Those You Love<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>By Elisha Goldstein and Stefanie Goldstein<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In movies, people often gaze into the eyes of the person they love\u2014but in reality, we spend more time gazing into the glowing screens of our smartphones. It\u2019s <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/what-is-your-phone-doing-to-your-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"a damaging habit (opens in a new tab)\">a damaging habit that can distract us from in-person conversations and real-world experiences with people we care about. Here are 11 simple ways to build real relationships with the people you care about most:<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-11-ways-to-connect-with-care\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11_Ways_to_Connect_with_Care\"><\/span>11 Ways to Connect with Care<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-nbsp-really-see-each-other\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Really_see_each_other\"><\/span>1.\u00a0Really see each other<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Making eye contact with someone activates what psychologist Stephen Porges calls our Social Nervous System, which can relieve stress and create a deeper sense of connection. It is hard not to feel intimate and vulnerable when looking into the eyes of another person\u2014even a stranger. Try it! It may feel funny at first, but you will find a softening in your heart and a sensation of love flowing before you know it.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-listen-with-all-of-your-senses\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Listen_with_all_of_your_senses\"><\/span>2. Listen with all of your senses<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>There\u2019s a difference between hearing someone and actively listening to someone. The next time you\u2019re having an in-person conversation, notice the posture and body language of the other person. Tune into the tone of their voice, and absorb the meaning of their words. See if it\u2019s possible to put aside your own response while listening to them speak. When we feel listened to, we feel cared about and this increases a sense of mutual love and connection.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-reach-out-and-touch-someone\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Reach_out_and_touch_someone\"><\/span>3. Reach out and touch someone<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>As mammals, physical contact is essential to our well-being. American psychologist Harry Harlow\u2019s famous study on maternal deprivation with rhesus monkeys demonstrated that touch provides a crucial psychological and emotional resource in our development. Touch is also a primary way we communicate, feel safe, soothe our nervous systems, trust one another, and convey love and compassion. Take a day to experiment with actively reaching out to your loved ones with small touches\u00a0(on the hand, shoulder, knee, or arm) and see what you notice\u2014perhaps it\u2019s a greater sense of connection, increased compassion, or an open heart.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-nbsp-hug-like-you-mean-it\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Hug_like_you_mean_it\"><\/span>4.\u00a0Hug like you mean it<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Very few things feel better than a good hug. Science shows that hugging can reduce blood pressure, alleviate fear, soothe anxiety, and release the \u201clove\u201d hormone oxytocin. Psychologist Stan Tatkin suggests that in order to align nervous systems, prevent arguments, and feel more connected people hug until both bodies feel relaxed. Who can you hug today?<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-be-interested\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Be_interested\"><\/span>5. Be interested<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>The late rabbi and social activist Abraham Joshua Heschel said, \u201cLife is routine, and routine is resistance to wonder.\u201d One of the essential attitudes of mindfulness is curiosity, and we can bring this into our relationships to foster warmth and trust. Our minds often tell us that we \u201cknow\u201d someone so well that we can predict their behaviors and responses. While this may be true some of the\u00a0time, it also stops us from clearly seeing the person in front of us\u2014instead we just see our \u201cidea\u201d of that person. See if you can be open, curious, and interested in those close to you as if you are getting to know them for the first time. You might be surprised what you find.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-6-make-plans-and-keep-them\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Make_plans_and_keep_them\"><\/span>6. Make plans and keep them<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Nothing breaks a bond like flaking on plans. And yet there are often reasons we don\u2019t follow through on commitments. Sometimes we\u2019re overextended, saying \u201cyes\u201d to plans or responsibilities when we mean \u201cno.\u201d Be honest with yourself, and only take on what you can handle. Identify the people in your life who bring you down, and those who nourish and energize you. And then figure out if, and how, you can work with your relationships to those people to foster mutual trust, respect, and appreciation.\u00a0Our connections flourish when we take time to get to know ourselves, and others, better.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-7-nbsp-communicate-your-needs-and-feelings\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Communicate_your_needs_and_feelings\"><\/span>7.\u00a0Communicate your needs and feelings<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Most of us have been guilty at one time or another of not being clear about what we really need or want in the moment. This indirect form of communication rarely yields the outcome we want. In our program\u00a0<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/stefaniegoldsteinphd.com\/connecting-adolescents-to-learning-mindfulness-calm\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Connecting Adolescents to Learning Mindfulness\u00a0<\/a>(CALM), we emphasize the importance of Non-Violent Communication, which assumes that we all share the same basic needs and that our actions (knowingly or unknowingly) are attempts to get those satisfied. When we learn how to identify and express our own needs clearly, we naturally move toward greater understanding, compassion, and connection with the people in our lives.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-8-be-kind\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8_Be_kind\"><\/span>8. Be kind<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Kindness is like a magnet. People like to be around others who are kind because they feel cared about and safe with them. The age-old Golden Rule, \u201cDo unto others as you would want them to do to you\u201d still rings true today. It\u2019s also reciprocal. When we practice kindness, not only do we feel better, but we help others feel good, too. And this just increases opportunities for positive connections throughout our day, which, in turn, contributes to our own health and well-being.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-9-nbsp-think-nbsp-before-you-speak\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9_THINK_before_you_speak\"><\/span>9.\u00a0THINK\u00a0before you speak<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>We\u2019ve all been guilty of saying or doing something we wished we hadn\u2019t. It happens. But we can certainly make more of an effort to be thoughtful with our words and actions. Try this experiment for a week: Before speaking\u00a0to someone, consider the following: Is it\u00a0<strong>T<\/strong>rue, is it\u00a0<strong>H<\/strong>elpful, am\u00a0<strong>I<\/strong>\u00a0the best one to say it, is it\u00a0<strong>N<\/strong>ecessary, is it\u00a0<strong>K<\/strong>ind? See how your interactions change.<\/p>\n<p>We might even imagine what the world would be like if everyone practiced this a little more.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-10-nbsp-practice-just-like-me\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10_Practice_%E2%80%9CJust_like_me%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>10.\u00a0Practice \u201cJust like me\u201d<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>DNA research has revealed that regardless of gender, ethnicity, or race, humans are 99.9% the same. If you want to foster a greater sense of connection in your life, as you go through your day and encounter someone who you think is different from you, silently say, \u201cJust like me,\u201d and see what comes up. You may just experience the awareness that each of us wants the same things: to feel cared for and understood, and to experience a sense of belonging.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-11-experience-joy-for-others\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11_Experience_joy_for_others\"><\/span>11. Experience joy for others<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Be on the lookout for moments when you notice that others are taking care of themselves, experiencing a success or accomplishment, or even just having a good day, and see if you can be happy for them. Sometimes this joy for another\u2019s happiness naturally arises, and other times it\u2019s something we can intentionally foster. If you feel so bold, tell them, \u201cGood job\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m so happy for you.\u201d Not only can this create or strengthen your connection, but it can amplify your own good feelings.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-build-connection-through-digital-zones\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Build_Connection_Through_Digital_Zones\"><\/span>Build Connection Through Digital Zones<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>If eye contact, touch, and the way we use vocal tone (prosody) can help create connection, technology dilutes it. It pulls our gaze away and reduces human physical touch and can give us a sense of connection that often stays at the surface. Consider how you can create some tech-free zones throughout your day to increase your relational awareness and foster deeper connections in your daily life.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-notice-these-3-nbsp-phases-nbsp-of-nbsp-communication\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Notice_These_3_Phases_of_Communication\"><\/span>Notice These 3\u00a0Phases\u00a0of\u00a0Communication<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>A great metaphor for this is the changing traffic light: We imagine that when the channel of communication closes down, the light has turned red. When communication feels open again, we say the light has turned green. When communication feels in-between, or on the verge of closing down, we say the light has turned yellow. The changing traffic light imagery helps us to identify our various states of communication, and to recognize the consequences of each.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\"><strong>\ufeffThe Red Light: Defensive Reactions<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When the red light is on we are defensive and closed down. When we react to fear by shutting down the channel of communication, we\u2019ve put up a defensive barrier dividing us from the world. We justify our defensiveness by holding on to unexamined opinions about how right we are. We tell ourselves that relationships are not that important. We undervalue other people and put our self-interest first. In short, our values shift to \u201cme-first.\u201d Closed communication patterns are controlling and mistrustful. Others become static objects only important to us if they meet our needs.<\/p>\n<p>To make matters worse, when we\u2019re closed and defensive, we feel emotionally hungry. We look to others to rescue us from aloneness. We might try to manipulate and control them to get what we need. Because these strategies never really work, we inevitably become disappointed with people. We suffer, and we cause others to suffer.<\/p>\n<p>When we close down and become defensive\u2014for a few minutes, a few days, a few months, or even a lifetime\u2014we\u2019re cutting ourselves off not only from others, but also from our natural ability to communicate. Mindful communication trains us to notice when we\u2019ve stopped using our innate communication wisdom\u2014the red light.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Openness also has the magic ingredient that enables us to fall in love, to feel empathy and courage.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>The Green Light: Openness<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Paying attention to our communication patterns helps us realize the value of openness. Generally, we associate open people as trustworthy, as in touch with themselves and others. But openness also has the magic ingredient that enables us to fall in love, to feel empathy and courage. When we\u2019re open, we let go of our opinions and enter a larger mind, which gives us the power to trust our instincts.<\/p>\n<p>When we\u2019re open, we don\u2019t see our individual needs opposing the needs of others. We experience a \u201cwe-first\u201d state of mind, because we appreciate that our personal survival depends on the well-being of our relationships. We express this connectedness to others through open communication patterns. Open communication tunes us in to whatever is going on in the present moment, whether comfortable or not. Openness is heartfelt, willing to share the joy and pain of others. Because we\u2019re not blocked by our own opinions, our conversations with others explore new worlds of experience. We learn, change, and expand.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\"><strong>\ufeffThe Yellow Light: In-Between<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In practicing mindful communication, eventually we ask ourselves: What exactly causes me to switch from open to closed and then open again? We begin to discover the state of mind that exists in-between open and closed\u2014symbolized by the yellow light. In-between is a place we normally don\u2019t want to enter. We find ourselves there when the ground falls out from beneath our feet, when we feel surprised, embarrassed, disappointed\u2014on the verge of shutting down. We might feel a sudden loss of trust, an unexpected flash of self-consciousness. <strong>Learning to hold steady<\/strong> and be curious at this juncture is critical to the practice of mindful conversation. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Small acts of kindness that are either shared or withheld when the yellow light is flashing can make or break a relationship.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>A yellow-light transition can appear at any time. We can switch from closed to open via the yellow light, if we\u2019re willing to enter into curiosity, or accepting that we don\u2019t know the answer. The in-between state of mind is a critical time for bringing peace into our homes and workplaces. Small acts of kindness that are either shared or withheld when the yellow light is flashing can make or break a relationship. Once we\u2019re in the red zone, it\u2019s too late to engage in acts of kindness\u2014we\u2019re too mistrustful. I\u2019ve seen this over and again working with couples\u2014they reach a critical point when they can save their relationship by switching from me-first to we-first thinking. They can think about their children, pets, or anything that brings a larger picture to mind. Acts of kindness at this point shift them into a temporary mood of gratitude. Feeling gratitude makes them more interested in moving forward.<\/p>\n<p>The yellow light points to those miraculous moments when we can open up, wag our tails, and play. We break the spell of our own personal agendas and awaken to genuine relationship. Such abrupt shifts seem to come out of nowhere in the middle of our most ego-crunching experiences\u2014such as admitting that we\u2019ve made a mistake.<\/p>\n<p>A successful relationship is the result of thousands of small flashes of the yellow light, where we were able to transform disappointments and arguments into opportunities for unmasking, intimacy, and joy.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><script data-cfasync=\"false\" type=\"javascript\/blocked\" data-wpmeteor-type=\"text\/javascript\" >\n!function(f,b,e,v,n,t,s)\n{if(f.fbq)return;n=f.fbq=function(){n.callMethod?\nn.callMethod.apply(n,arguments):n.queue.push(arguments)};\nif(!f._fbq)f._fbq=n;n.push=n;n.loaded=!0;n.version='2.0';\nn.queue=[];t=b.createElement(e);t.async=!0;\nt.src=v;s=b.getElementsByTagName(e)[0];\ns.parentNode.insertBefore(t,s)}(window, document,'script',\n'\nfbq('init', '973198340649629');\nfbq('track', 'PageView');\n<\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><br \/>\n<br \/>This article was written by Mindful Staff from www.mindful.org<br \/>\n<br \/><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/how-to-be-mindful-in-love\/?rand=15311\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n<!-- CONTENT END 2 -->\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Summarize \u2728 \u062a\u0644\u062e\u064a\u0635 You don\u2019t have to wait for Valentine\u2019s day to pause and reflect on the relationships you value in your life. 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